Woes of Cynical Romanticism

Most of us humans suffering from cynical romanticism tend to see the world in only black and white. The situation or person is either great or too bad but we never really explore the gray areas. People and situations can be just fine, they don't have to be great or worse, just like the "Middle Place" in "The Good Place"

The trust issues of broken relationships and severe abandonment issues have just made us so guarded that we want to respond to texts after hours, do not label relationships or introduce our significant others to our friends and family and over-analyze everything in fear of our hearts getting broken. And this is not reserved to romantic relationships or partners also, it affect the general relationship we have with almost everyone in the entire world. We do not become friends with people in fear of getting hurt, we push people who love us due to our insecurities of them not loving us but maybe, just maybe, the people who love us do that because we are worth loving. We deserve to be loved no matter the relationship.

Yes, people and their actions do not surprise us but they still make our heart ache because we see the worst in people, we question their intentions because we think everybody is bad at heart. So maybe its time to see the gray in every situation. Just put it out there and let nature takes its course without overthinking about how people disappoint us because people are not supposed to behave the way we want them to behave. Yes, people will still love you and not behave the way you want them to and it's okay because everybody is not born to please you. It's our belief of people/situations that disappoint us and not the people themselves.

So it's time to let go off all our white and black beliefs and let things be the way they are. Enjoy being yourself and let go of the "All or nothing" approach because people who deserve you will find you and they will love you but they won't always behave according to your wishes and that's completely ok. Take a deep breath and accept it and that is how you will form strong relationships with great people.