How to get over a breakup

 Ok, for the people who are here to know how to get over a breakup, they might get a few insights out of this or they might not because this is not about just how to get over a breakup because nobody can tell you how. Every person has different mechanisms to get over heartbreaks and these kinds of heartbreaks could be with their exes or their unrequited love or from their summer flings and we are no one to judge that. Some people might not be so broken after even a five-year-long relationship but others might be a little broken about their two-month-long non-relationship. Yes, in this era where love is categorized into so many things, we also have a non-relationship where the people are together exclusively but it's not casual and it's not serious either. Pretty confusing, yes!

Love really has got to have fifty shades with the kind of approach our generation has about love and relationships now that's why a movie like Fifty Shades of Grey was released when we are in the age where we either got to be serious about love or drop the idea of love entirely. Yet, we have categorized love into a lot of parts- there is casual, there is a non-relationship, there are friends with benefits, there is a relationship but not one which ends into marriage, there is a relationship which ends into marriage, there is unrequited love, then there is one more unrequited kind of love where you are more serious about the other person and he/she is not that serious, etc.

A person can feel a lot or not feel at all when he gets out of any kind of love and like I said we are no one to judge. We are humans and we are programmed to feel and it does not depend on your maturity. You can be a 17 year old and have no feelings and a 27-year-old with lots of it so it doesn't define anybody's maturity. And we all have different methods to deal with it. We may deal with it by going out with a lot of friends, plunging ourselves into our work or our hobbies, getting a rebound (which is a pretty unhealthy way to do it), or lie in our beds- depressed and crying our eyes out but we do get over it because we are also programmed to heal ourselves.

I may have heard some time ago of a condition called Broken Heart Syndrome so we know that heartbreaks are real and we are entitled to whatever we can to heal that temporary gash in our hearts which may be created due to such heartbreaks. Yes, it is temporary and it can be healed but the only person who can heal it is you. Sure, your loved ones will support you but until you put in that effort to heal yourself, it might never happen because over the years, with so many heartbreaks, we have also re-programmed ourselves to heal and to get ourselves out of such situations. At the end of the day, it's about you and only you.